Workplace mental health counselor

We can solve most of the emotional and practical dilemmas that you have accumulated in the workplace that you can’t express, can’t find anyone to talk to, and can’t handle on your own. Whether it’s the nauseating burnout when you think of going to work, the internal friction of not getting along well with colleagues and leaders, or the confusion of being stuck in a rising period and not knowing where to go. As long as you find the right person, the cost-effectiveness is much higher than if you carry on, complain, or impulsively resign. It’s really not an IQ tax.

I was particularly impressed by the 32-year-old Internet operations team leader I met last week. His eyes were black when he arrived. He said he woke up at three o'clock in the morning for 21 days in a row. When he woke up, he would browse the recruitment website until dawn but didn't dare to submit. He was afraid that it would be better than now. When I complained to my husband a lot, he said, "Just be content with how many people can't find a job." I told my subordinates that I was afraid of appearing useless. When I talked to my friends in the same industry, everyone was bitter. After I complained, I became even more anxious. I felt that the whole industry was like this and that no matter how hard I tried, it was useless. She was sitting on the sofa in my consultation room, clutching a milk tea cup. The cup was so deformed that she said, "I really don't know how long I can hold on."

To be honest when it comes to this, there are indeed two completely different consulting ideas in our industry. In the past, we often argued over this. One group is a person who majored in clinical psychology and advocates "emotion first". They believe that all the troubles you have now are essentially blocked emotions. You must first clean up the behavioral patterns you have had since childhood and the hidden injuries you have suffered in the workplace. Once your emotions are smooth, the problem will naturally be solved; The other group is a former corporate HR and career coach who advocates "problem solving first" and believes that time in the workplace is precious. Instead of chatting about your childhood for half an hour, it is better to directly teach you how to negotiate salary with your boss and how to turn down work that does not belong to you. Once you get the results, your mood will naturally improve. Both sides have their own reasons. I have seen a girl who was so depressed by a PUA in the workplace that she had to go through 8 emotional counseling sessions before she dared to take the initiative to resign. After changing to a new job, she felt better. I have also seen a young man who just joined the job and learned how to align his needs with the leader, and in the second month he was awarded the title of outstanding newcomer in the department.

When I do my own consultations, I usually don’t stick to a genre first. When I come, I ask you what you most want to solve at the moment. If you have been unable to eat for a week in a row and your menstruation has become irregular, then I will help you to clean up your emotions first and put everything else aside; if you are going to talk to your boss about a salary increase tomorrow and you are not sure today, then I will directly give you a reporting framework and teach you how to deal with the boss's low-price tactics. I will talk about the rest next time. After all, the people who come here all come with real pain, so if you can make people suffer less, they will suffer less.

You must have had times like this, right? You sit at your desk in the morning and stare at the computer screen for half an hour. The cursor flashes on the first line of the document and you can't type a word. You obviously haven't done any heavy work. When you get home from get off work, you slump on the sofa and you don't even bother to raise your hand when the cat comes over to rub you. Don’t take it seriously, this is an early sign of job burnout. I have seen too many people carry on hard, hiding in the toilet and crying every day until the end. They go to the hospital to find out that they are moderately depressed, and have to leave their jobs to recuperate. The money spent and the time wasted are more than ten times more than consulting.

Of course, not everyone with the name "workplace psychological counseling" is reliable, and I have seen many people fall into traps. The kind of people who give you chicken soup right from the start, "You have to work harder, you are the best", or directly advise you to "resign if you don't like it, the world is such a big place", you can just get up and leave, it's useless. A reliable counselor will, first of all, not judge you casually or say, "You are too conceited to be able to handle such a trivial matter." Secondly, he will not make decisions for you, but will only help you put all the pros and cons that you are not aware of on the table. Thirdly, after the conversation, you will feel that the blockage in your heart has been loosened, instead of becoming more anxious.

To be honest, I have been in this business for so long, and the happiest thing is not how much consulting fees I have collected. Last week, when the operations girl came for the third time, she brought me a glass of iced Americano and said that she talked to the boss about expanding enrollment yesterday. Performance data, then mentioned the specific impact of the shortage of manpower, and finally talked about how much more can be done after the expansion of enrollment." The negotiation was completed smoothly. After get off work, she even went to buy the little skirt that she had been coveting for three months. "It has been a long time since I felt like I could float when I walked." When she said with a smile, her eyes lit up. You see, this is the meaning of our profession. It is not to help you directly cheat and reach the peak of life, but to help you push away the gray fog that is blocking you so that you can clearly see the power you already have.