Mental health benefits

It does not mean that you will never encounter bad things in your life and never have negative emotions, but it will give you enough psychological flexibility so that you will not be dragged away by emotions in any situation. You can not only receive the dividends of good times, but also withstand the losses of low times, and finally get your own life results - whether it is a healthy body, a comfortable relationship, or sustainable career development.

Don’t think this is the metaphysics of “having a good attitude will make everything go smoothly”. When I was doing public welfare consultation at a street psychological service station, I met two retired aunts of the same age. One of them was diagnosed with Category 3 breast nodules two years ago. She was always worried that she would become cancerous and could not eat or sleep well. Later, I practiced with the mindfulness group at the station for half a year. Last week, the nodules had been reduced to Category 1, and her overall complexion has brightened by more than one degree. ； Another aunt found no organic problems in her physical examination, but she always felt that her children thought she was useless and that her neighbors were talking bad about her behind her back. She sulked at home every day. At the end of last year, she was diagnosed with essential hypertension and mild anxiety. Now she takes three kinds of medicine every day. Empirical research in the field of physiological psychology has long supported this: people who have been in a state of internal friction such as anxiety and depression for a long time have cortisol levels that are more than 30% higher than the normal value for a long time, and the risk of high blood pressure, coronary heart disease, and metabolic syndrome is 2.1 times higher than that of the general population. Of course, differences between different schools should also be mentioned here: The school of positive psychology does not advocate "eliminating all negative emotions". Instead, it believes that allowing emotions such as sadness and anger to exist and be channeled reasonably is the core standard of mental health. In essence, it is a cushion for your physical condition, rather than a golden bell that isolates all bad emotions.

I received a visit from a middle-level Internet user a while ago, and he probably felt this more deeply than anyone else. When he first came here, he would complain two or three times a week. He would either scold the plans made by his subordinates as garbage, or argue with his wife when he went home, feeling that she did not understand his pressure. He would even argue with the rider for half an hour when the delivery was late. After four months of cognitive adjustment, he told me when he came last week that his subordinate had written down the parameters of an important project incorrectly a few days ago. Before, he would have slapped the table and scolded me for half an hour. His first reaction that day was actually, "Oh, which piece of information is misaligned?" ”, it finally took two hours to fix the problem, and it did not affect the launch of the project. Now my wife and I can take one night a week to go out for a small dinner and a date. Different schools have different explanations for the contradictions in this type of relationship: Psychoanalysis will believe that this is the relationship between early childhood and strict parenting that is projected into the current relationship, and the cognitive behavioral school will believe that it is caused by the irrational belief that "everyone must meet my expectations." But no matter which angle the intervention is from, the final result is the same: when his mental state returns to the healthy range, he no longer needs to attack the outside world to relieve his inner anxiety, and the surrounding relationships will naturally go smoothly.

Many people may not realize it, but mental health is actually the most overlooked career development buff. I used to know two friends who were entrepreneurs in the same class. They both encountered financing gaps in 2022, and the money in their accounts was only enough to last three months. One of them had insomnia every day during that period, and would panic when the team encountered even the slightest problem. In the end, he sold the company at a low price after more than two months. ； The other one has always been in the habit of meditating for a long time. During that time, he led the team to hold several small meetings, directly cut off half of the unprofitable business lines, and switched to small but beautiful vertical category services. Now he has a stable profit of several million every year. Of course, there are different voices. Many success scholars believe that "emotions are a stumbling block to success" and advocate that managers should eliminate all emotional fluctuations. However, a study published by Harvard Business Review last year that tracked 1,200 business managers showed that managers who suppress negative emotions for a long time and do not provide psychological counseling , the probability of making risky and wrong decisions is 42% higher than that of managers who regularly sort out their emotions. To put it bluntly, mental health will not directly send you orders or financing, but it can make you less coerced by fear and anxiety when encountering uncertainty, make decisions more calmly, and naturally reduce the probability of getting into trouble.

I have been doing psychological counseling for almost 7 years, and I have met too many people who regard mental health as "something that people who are not sick do not need", and even think that going to psychological counseling is "hypocritical". But if you really come into contact with it, you will know that this thing is like the backup power supply in your mobile phone. It seems to be of no use at ordinary times. Only when you encounter something happens will you realize how many difficult moments it can help you through. Oh, by the way, don’t think that mental health requires you to spend a lot of money on classes or consultations. Don’t hold it in when you encounter bad things. Talk to friends, run around for a few times to sweat, or even go home and curse the pillow for ten minutes. These are all good ways to relax mentally. After all, we live our lives not to be immortals without emotions, but to be ordinary people who can eat even if they cry. This is enough.