Can we have sex during postpartum recovery

The mother's physical reexamination is up to standard, she has no discomfort, and both parties are willing. If one of them is missing, it is not recommended to try it in a hurry.

Many new parents around me have experienced this problem. Some heard the elders at home say that they must wait for a hundred days before they can have sex. Even though the 42-day reexamination showed no problems, the couple was so embarrassed that everything was fine. Others felt that everything would be fine after the confinement, and rushed to resume close contact before the lochia was completely cleared. As a result, the woman developed pelvic inflammatory disease, had a fever and had to lose fluids for several days, which was not worth the gain.

The pace of recovery is indeed different for different delivery methods. In the case of normal delivery, the 42-day postpartum review is generally an important node. If the review shows that the lochia has been eliminated, the perineal incision or laceration has completely healed, and there are no major problems with the pelvic floor muscle assessment, then there is no need to wait for 100 days, just follow your own feelings. If you have a caesarean section, you should be more cautious. After all, there is a real surgical incision on the uterus, and the recovery period will be longer. Most clinicians will recommend waiting at least 2-3 months after delivery before considering it. After all, if the wound is irritated before it is firmly established, it can range from bleeding and infection to serious cases, and it may even cause uterine perforation. Don't be careless.

What many people tend to overlook is the psychological level of acceptance. I have seen several sisters in the baby mom group complain that they had just given birth and had to take care of their baby day and night. They slept less than three hours a day and didn't even have the energy to wash their faces. However, their husbands only thought about when they could have sex, which made them almost file for divorce. In this situation, there is no need to force yourself even if your physical parameters are all up to standard. Postpartum estrogen and progesterone have not yet returned to pre-pregnancy levels, and coupled with the fatigue of raising a baby, it is normal to have low sexual desire. If you force it, it will easily leave a psychological shadow, and it will be difficult to repair the intimate relationship in the future.

There is another point that must sound the alarm. Don’t think that you won’t get pregnant if you don’t menstruate after delivery. My distant cousin is the same roommate who recovered more than 50 days after a normal delivery. She didn’t use contraceptive measures, thinking that she couldn’t ovulate before her aunt came. As a result, the eldest child was found to be pregnant with the second child when she was only half a year old. The uterus is still soft and has not recovered. The risk is too high. Abortion will also harm the body. I suffer from the old dilemma.

After all, there has never been a unified standard answer to this matter. Don't believe the number of days that is said on the Internet, and don't be bound by the dead rules of the older generation. Ask the doctor for advice, and pay more attention to the mother's feelings. It is more reliable than anything else.