Emotion Management MV

The so-called "emotion management MV" is currently one of the lowest-cost tools that adapts to the fragmented emotional needs of contemporary people - you don't need to force yourself to "think more" or "don't be angry", you only need to use your current emotions as material and spend 5-10 minutes to cut yourself a MV that is only visible to you. The exclusive MV can relieve more than 80% of daily negative emotions. User self-test data from a psychological service platform in 2024 shows that the emotional relief efficiency of this method is 62%, 47% and 39% higher than forcing it, asking friends to complain, and chicken soup for the soul, respectively.

The first time I came into contact with this method was when I was providing emotional counseling for a short video director at the end of last year. At that time, she was changing the plan every weekend for three consecutive months. When Party A sent back the 8th version of the script, she did not cry or throw anything. Instead, she started editing and cut a 1-minute short video in 10 minutes. : The voice-to-text screenshot of Party A was transformed into a ferocious-looking Godzilla. The half-eaten takeaway, the hair that fell on the keyboard, and the iced Coke bought from the convenience store downstairs appeared in sequence. The BGM was "The Miracle Reappears", and finally a large subtitle was added, "Godzilla has to wait for me to finish drinking Coke before playing again today." After cutting, she stretched and said that she had almost blurted out her resignation application just now, but now she swallowed it down and changed her plan.

It's interesting to say that there are actually two factions in the mainstream emotion management circle that are quarreling with each other. One group is a supporter of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). They believe that negative emotions come from irrational beliefs. You have to clarify with yourself that "Party A is criticizing the plan, not you." Once you clarify, the emotion will disappear. ； The other group are followers of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), who believe that the more you fight against your emotions, the more uncomfortable you will feel. Don’t judge, just sit and feel the emotions flowing through your body, and then it will be fine. But to be honest, most ordinary working people and student party members really don’t have that patience - they are tired enough at work, but they still have to reason with themselves after get off work? I sat there mindfully for 5 minutes and already had 8 to-do lists running through my mind, which made me even more anxious.

The beauty of this MV method is that it just circumvents the controversial points between the two factions. You don't need to correct your thoughts. If you are angry, you are angry. Just cut out all the angry material and scold Party A as much as you want. No one will see it anyway. ； There’s no need to “accept” it. When you’re editing the video, you’re actually dealing with your emotions. It’s just that you’re not just sitting there and enduring them, but you’re finding an outlet for them.

I have a visitor who is a medical student. The last time the department was rotated to the emergency department, he received three rescue patients in a row. When he got off work, he was completely numb and couldn't cry. So he used this method to edit the MV: he filmed the magnolia flowers that were in bloom downstairs in the hospital, and he was wearing a white coat. There were candies in the bag, as well as sausages bought on the way to get off work. The BGM was "Little Lucky" that they often sang together in their dormitory. When I finished cutting and walked downstairs to the dormitory, I finally couldn't hold back and cried for 5 minutes. After crying, I felt better. I said that the tightness in my chest before had completely dissipated.

You don’t have to be able to cut videos. Those with disabilities can definitely create a simplified version: open NetEase Cloud to find a playlist that matches your current mood, flip through the photo album and select 3 pictures that match your current mood, and create a circle of friends that only you can see. The most outrageous thing I've ever seen was a programmer who didn't even bother to choose pictures. He just took three pictures of the error code and paired them with the BGM of "Good Luck Comes". After sending them, he went back to correct the bugs. He said it was easier to decompress than smoking three cigarettes.

Of course, it must be made clear that this method is not a panacea. I've met people who said that when they were suffering from depression, they didn't even have the strength to hold their cell phones and couldn't cut videos at all. Don't hold on at this time. It's time to find a doctor and seek consultation. It's just used to deal with those daily "bad things that are not big or small" - such as being spoken to by the boss, failing the exam, having a small quarrel with the partner, being late for the takeout and eating half of the meal. These are not worthy of seeking psychological consultation, and it is easy to build up internal friction, so it is just right to use it.

I worked on the quarterly report for three days last week. On the last day at two o'clock in the morning, I looked at the unfinished PPT and almost smashed my computer, so I cut a MV at random: it was all about the dark history of my cat tearing up the house, with the song "I won't go to work tomorrow". After cutting it, I laughed so hard that I almost woke up my roommate, so I sat down and finished writing the PPT in half an hour.

In fact, in the final analysis, emotions are never your enemy. You don't need to lock it up or fight with it. Just treat it as a child visiting your house. Give it a notebook and let it draw pictures at will. After drawing, it will leave on its own. Your MV doesn’t have to be beautiful, logical, or even meaningful. It’s enough if you enjoy it.